Seriously, ladies, what the fuck! What the fuck are you waiting for and what the fuck makes you think that you are so damn special that you can't compromise when it comes to relationships? Until I moved to the South I had never experienced this Princess Phenomena. I'm not entirely sure how to explain it, but in the South there are some women who believe that they can't "settle" or compromise. They have certain criteria for a mate that they just absolutely refuse to budge on. The problem is that these women have so many personal issues and baggage themselves that I can't figure out why they believe that men are supposed to be perfect, but they can be just so-so. Does it not occur to them that there are men out there with certain criteria as well? Maybe your prince charming doesn't want someone with bucked teeth, who is overweight did you think of that? Maybe he wants someone who can pay her own bills and doesn't constantly whine about every little thing that isn't going perfectly in her life? I just think that these girls need to wake up and realize that they aren't perfect and sitting around waiting for the perfect man to show up and sweep them off their feet is going to leave them alone and wishing they could take it all back.
I just don't get it. I'm far from a supermodel yet I have never had trouble finding a man to date. Right now I'm engaged to a wonderful man who I am madly in love with and he feels the same for me, yet I have friends who are gorgeous and witty and fun, and they can't even find a guy to grab a burger with. I know a girl who thinks that because a man tried to give her a kiss good night that he was trying to get her into bed (newsflash- when you go up to a guy's apartment and take your shoes off and curl up on the couch on the first date, you kinda give that vibe anyway). How can you date someone if you are afraid to even kiss him? Then I have another friend whose list is so long and ridiculous that I don't even think that this person exists in the real world, yet she has made him up in her mind and she honestly believes he is out there somewhere. She doesn't even meet half of the criteria on her list, how can she expect someone else to?
My point here is that if you don't compromise on the little things, you will never find what you are looking for. And seriously, if you are really that inflexible, you need some therapy. I mean I loathe the way my fiance dresses, he looks like a 12 year old little boy in his tee-shirts with silly sayings on them and his cargo shorts that are 2 sizes too big and his big funny sneakers. But you know what, who cares? Really in the grand scheme of things, I don't really care that much about how he dresses. And when it is important he will dress up in what I ask him to (he'll bitch about it, but he will do it). The important things are that he makes me laugh, he is responsible and a hard worker and he is loving and caring and intelligent. These are the things that matter to me! If I were still so hung up on his outfit, I would have never gotten to know him better and I would have never discovered who he really is.
The truth of the matter is Ryan Reynolds is not interested in someone like you because you don't meet his criteria. And as shitty as that might make you feel to hear the truth, that is how all of those men out there feel when you shoot them down for a date or a coffee or whatever because they aren't Mr. Perfect.
Sometimes you have to kiss some frogs before you find your prince. Sometimes you just have to start looking in the reality mirror and not the Disney mirror that deludes you into believing you are perfect and therefore only deserve perfection.
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